Does My Partner Have AVP?

My partner says they feel worthless

(or they act like they feel worthless)

My partner says that everyone is out to get them

(They are paranoid of everything and everyone)

My partner thinks that everyone is better than them

(Or they act as if they have no value)

My partner thinks that everyone is critical of them

(They cannot handle criticism)

My partner thinks others, including you, are rejecting them

(Even the slightest criticism makes them feel rejected)

My partner has a lot of difficulty holding jobs

(They frequently switch jobs)

My partner gets depressed

(Not just occasional sadness; they experience a complete loss of hope and joy in life)

My partner says they hate themselves

(Or act as if they do)

My partner prevents me from going out with friends and family

(They make excuses as to why they can't do this)

My partner tries to control everything I do

(I cannot do anything without their permission)

My partner never talks about their feelings

(They won't open up about anything)

My partner does not have any close friends

(Friends that they go out and do things with)

My partner doesn't trust me

(or say they do not)

My partner trusts no one

(or say they do not)

My partner does not share their opinions with others

(They fear others will judge them if they do)

My partner says that people scare them

(Or they act as though they fear people)

My partner says they think of suicide

(Harming themselves)

My partner has attempted suicide

(Harming themselves)

My partner suffers from panic attacks

(Harming themselves)

My partner has trouble making commitments

(Any commitments)

I feel like I am responsible for my partner's well-being

(I feel like I must stay with them. or do what they want, for fear they might hurt themselves)

My partner has problems being intimate with me

(They seem to be afraid to do things and resent it when I tell them what I want)

My partner does not let me have my own point of view

(If I say what I think, they get mad or defensive and bully me to think the way they do)

My partner does not meet my needs

(Everything is all about them)

My partner has a lot of difficulty opening up to me

(They don't talk about their feelings)

My partner does NOT defend themselves when we fight

(They shut down and won’t talk at all)